丫 鬟 小 妖

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中国社科出版社最近推出一本新书《漂亮女孩儿不站墙角——在办公室绝不能犯的101个无意识错误》一书，该书的作者是美国“企业培训国际”的总裁、女性职场心理专家洛伊丝·P. 弗兰克尔博士，她提出了女性在职场上容易犯的101个错误，并且宣称，正是由于女人从少女时代养成的小女孩儿式的举止，损害了她们的职业发展。看一看，这101条错误，你也会犯吗？



1. 为职场不是赛场



2.谨遵规则，不要出界



3.努力工作



4.承担别人的工作



5.只工作，不休息



6.太天真



7.为公司精打细算

                                                                         

8.守株待兔



9.回避“办公室政治”                                                                                                                             

10.做正义者                                                                                                                                    

11.保护笨蛋                                                                                                                                    

12.缄默不语                                                                                                                                    

13.不在人际关系上投资                                                                                             



14.没有理解客户的需要                                                                                                                          

15.做决定前挨个征求意见                                                                                                                        

16.讨人喜欢                                                                                                                                    

17.不必讨人喜欢                                                                                                                                

18.为了藏拙而不敢提问                                                                                                                          

19.假装像个男人                                                                                                                                

20.据实禀告，毫不欺瞒                                                                                                                          

21.公开过多个人信息                                                                                                                            

22.过分担心开罪于人                                                                                                                            

23.否认金钱的重要性                                                                                                                            

24.卖弄风情                                                                                                                                    

25.甘受欺凌                                                                                                                                    

26.把办公室布置得像起居室                                                                                                                      

27.给别人吃东西                                                                                                                                

28.握手无力                                                                                                                                    

29.缺乏经济保障                                                                                                                                

30.服务他人                                                                                                                                    

31.创造奇迹                                                                                                                                    

32.承担全部责任                                                                                                                                

33.顺从地照章办事                                                                                                                              

34.视当权男性为长者                                                                                                                            

35.限制自己的潜能                                                                                                                              

36.忽视投桃报李                                                                                                                                

37.逃避聚会                                                                                                                                    

38.工作第一，生活第二                                                                                                                          

39.允许别人占用你的时间                                                                                                                        

40.过早放弃事业目标                                                                                                                            

41.忽视人际关系网的重要性                                                                                                                      

42.拒绝享受特权                                                                                                                                

43.寻找消极理由                                                                                                                                

44.强求完美                                                                                                                                    

45.未能定义个人品牌                                                                                                                            

46.轻视自己的工作或者职位                                                                                                                      

47.只使用昵称或名字                                                                                                                            

48.等待垂青                                                                                                                                    

49.拒绝重大任务                                                                                                                                

50.保持谦虚                                                                                                                                    

51.守在自己的安全地带                                                                                                                          

52.泄露自己的观点                                                                                                                              

53.要传统的女性职位(？)                                                                                                                        

54.忽视反馈意见                                                                                                                                

55.甘愿不引人注目                                                                                                                              

56.用提问的方式表达自己的观点                                                                                                                  

57.使用开场白                                                                                                                                  

58.解释



59.请求别人同意



60.道歉



61.过分使用谦辞                                                                                                                                

62.使用修饰语                                                                                                                                  

63.答非所问                                                                                                                                    

64.语速太快                                                                                                                                    

65.不能使用术语                                                                                                                                

66.使用非言词                                                                                                                                  

67.使用不确定语                                                                                                                                

68.“三明治”技巧                                                                                                                                

“三明治”模式即当你给出反馈的时候，把负面的反馈夹在两个正面反馈中间，这样只会让听者抓不住你给出信息的重点。                                     

                                                                                               69.语气柔和                                                                                                                                    

当我们小声说话时，我们传达的信息就显得不确定或缺乏自信。                                                                                                                                                                                          70.语调过高不自然



我们对比较低沉的声音会给予更多注意和尊敬。                                                                                                     

71.拖沓延长语音邮件                                                                                                                            

72.回答问题不假思索                                                                                             短暂的停顿以及随后的沉默，会给人留下你很自信的印象。                                                                                           

                                                                                               73.笑得不合时宜                                                                                                                                

74.占据的空间太小                                                                                                                              

对空间的占有也是表明我们的自信与资格的一种方式。                                                                                               

75.手势与传达的信息不一致                                                                                                                      

76.过分活跃或沉闷                                                                                                                              

职业女性最好是介于这两者之间。                                                                                                                 

77.歪着脑袋                                                                                                                                    

78.化妆不当                                                                                                                                    

不化妆不好，化得太浓太淡也不好。                                                                                                               

79.发型不当                                                                                             头发长度应与年龄成反比。                                                                                                                       

80.衣着不当                                                                                                                                    

衣着要适合你想要的工作，而不是你已经得到的工作。                                                                                               

81.坐在自己腿上(？)                                                                                                                            

82.当众打扮                                                                                                                                    

83.开会时把手放到桌下                                                                                                                          

84.把眼镜挂在脖子上                                                                                                                            

85.佩戴的饰品过多                                   &